Almost every child will have tantrums at some point. While tantrums usually appear between the ages of 1 and 3, some children hold onto these methods of expressing themselves for much longer if they cannot find any other way to express how frustrated or angry they are. Although tantrums are normal in certain circumstances, you can also empower your child to rise above these poor methods of communicating.
Be a Good Example
First, make sure that you are modeling the best way of dealing with emotions yourself. Young children learn from what they see, and if you are frequently yelling or complaining, your child will assume that is the correct way to act.
Talk About Feelings
Second, do not be so closed off to emotions that you cannot talk about them in your household. Children need to learn to put words to what they feel. Help your child understand and use such words as angry, sad, frustrated, happy, and lonely so that he can talk to you about how he feels.
Encourage Your Children in the Right Behaviors
Third, when you see your child modeling good emotional behavior, let him know that you have noticed, and be sure to praise him. This reinforces his good behaviors and makes him want to repeat them.
Find Good Coping Strategies
Fourth, help your child find physical behaviors that he can use to replace tantrums. Some good examples could include listening to music, dancing, reading, coloring, riding his bike, playing with a fidget toy, or taking a bath.
Watch out for Environmental Stressors
Finally, you should be on the lookout for stressors that could send your child off on an emotional tailspin. For example, if you know that tantrums happen more frequently when your child is tired or hungry, be sure that your child gets his nap, or consider giving him a snack in the afternoon.